On that “Don’t Say Gay” bill down in FL

Say “Gay” all the time.

Say “Gay” when you mean “homosexual”.

Say “Gay” when you mean happy. Ya know, like the word was used for hundreds of years. I fucking mean that too. RECLAIM the original meaning of the word. Use it as much as you can.

Say “Gay”. Say it as much as you can.

Throw it right back in their faces.

Name your kid “Gay”. I had a boss named “Gay” back in 1980, she was a real nice lady. She was into Pink Floyd, as I remember.

Or name your pet “Gay”.

Sing all those old standards that use the word “Gay” the way they did back in the day … because it rhymed so beautifully & it was the perfect double entendre.

Use the word “Gay” as much as humanly possible. Throw it right back in their faces.

Don’t Say “Gay”? Are you fucking kidding me? Is this bill even constitutional?





Ideas From Outside the Boxes

Marina Ovsyannikova is the woman who was detained after warning the people of Russia that they were being lied to, the woman who sacrificed herself to try to STOP WAR!

She tried to help the world. Now she needs help from the world. The whole world needs to loudly protest her detainment, and demand she be presented to the world unharmed.

Please, I am begging you, do whatever you can to save not only this woman, but all the Russian citizens who have been arrested for protesting the War in Ukraine. Stop Putin Now!

And while you are at it, Stop the War in Ukraine Now!


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The Nine Most Common Cognitive Distortions

I learned about this in more than one therapy situation, starting with drug rehab & including DV therapy. Most people use a combination of two or more of these cognitive distortions as a matter of habit; but once you realize what you are doing, it’s quite easy to become mindful of your mind’s tricks & to unlearn these bad habits of thinking.

Dead Wild Roses

Reading a new book called the Coddling of the American Mind by Gregg Lukainoff and Jonathan Haidt.  Just started, but it has been very interesting so far as describes some of the less than ideal strategies we have have for making our way through society.  Some of the maladaptive strategies can be countered through consciously acknowledging the mental track being taken and making conscious effort to change said track.  Of course, it is easier to diagnose these problems in other people (because we are all-good amiright?), but being able to see and react to these tracks in yourself is the end goal (aka cognitive behaviour therapy, CBT).

  1.  Emotional Reasoning: Letting your feelings guide your interpretation of reality.  “I feel depressed; therefore my marriage is not working out.”

     2.  Catastrophizing:  Focusing on the worst possible outcome and seeing it as most likely. “It would be terrible if I…

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The Perpetrators, the Victims, and the Bystanders: Putin’s War and War Crimes and Us

This is a long read but a very good read & I urge all of you to read this. I agree with everything Padre Steve says here.

The Inglorius Padre Steve's World

Friends of Padre Steve’s World,

The Czech-Jewish historian Yehuda Bauer, who escaped the Holocaust with his family the day that Hitler invaded Czechoslovakia, which had been abandoned by England, France, Italy, and even indirectly the United States which was battling a pro-Nazi isolationist movement, made this commend that none of us should forget: “Thou shalt not be a victim, thou shalt not be a perpetrator, but, above all, thou shalt not be a bystander.”

The Perpetrators: Putin, his Enablers, and those Who Carry Out His War

Bauer’s words are so applicable today as Vladimir Putin and his willing accomplices in the Russian government and military, having miserably failed to overthrow the Ukraine in a fast military campaign have now resorted to using massive artillery barrages, dumb bombs, and long range missiles to directly attack and massacre Ukrainian civilians, including children.

In the long build up to his attack on Ukraine…

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Saturday Caturday … early Sunday morning

I was sick all day yesterday (started late Friday night) with a stomach bug so I never got to my desk or to my usual writing routine … Friday night I was in the bathroom most of the night & yesterday, I was so wiped out, I slept most of the day. I did get outside to shovel the snow from the driveway. But that was it.

Most of the day, I was on the couch in my study but after I shoveled the driveway, I took a hot bath & went right to bed. When I woke up, my legs were somewhat cramped & this was the reason:

I have a larger bed, a queen-sized bed that used to be my son’s, but this little bed has a better mattress … I like a good firm mattress because I have a bad back. But it doesn’t leave much space for the kitties, who of course, have to sleep with their mommy when she isn’t feeling well because they know that’s what will make her feel better!